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New mum feels “exhausted” as partner’s ex sends step-children after birth



Woman seeks support as step-children’s visits increase after traumatic birth

Welcoming a newborn into the family is a precious and delicate time for parents, but one woman found herself facing unexpected challenges as her partner’s ex insisted on having their step-children visit immediately after she gave birth.

The new mother took to Mumsnet to share her experience, describing her labor as “traumatic” and expressing her desire for some time to “heal and process being a new mum.” She wished for quality bonding time with her partner and newborn daughter before introducing the step-children into the mix. The couple already had the step-children twice a week for dinner and every weekend, making the additional visits overwhelming for the new mother.

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The woman revealed that her partner’s ex raised concerns about not informing the step-children about the baby’s birth before others, leading to tensions. She further explained that having the step-children over shortly after her daughter’s birth was challenging, especially when both were ill with the flu, causing her distress due to the potential risk to her newborn. The children’s behavior, described as “not the best behaved,” added to the stress, with rough play resulting in an emotional breakdown for the new mother.

Despite her partner’s supportive role in housework and meals during his two weeks off, the constant care for the step-children left the woman feeling exhausted. Seeking advice, she questioned whether her feelings were unreasonable or if this was an expected part of parenting in blended families.

In the comments section, responses varied, with some empathizing with the new mother’s challenges, while others suggested that such situations might have been anticipated when entering into a relationship with someone who already has children.

The story sheds light on the complexities of blended families and the need for open communication and understanding among all parties involved, especially during significant life events like the arrival of a new family member.


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