Singer gets candid in a podcast with fiancé Benny Blanco about emotional growth and regrets
Selena Gomez has opened up about the emotional maturity she lacked in previous relationships and how her fiancé Benny Blanco helped her find peace in love.
In a heartfelt appearance on the On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast, the Only Murders in the Building star admitted she used to be “very reactive” and needed time alone to rebuild herself before entering a healthy relationship.
“I’ve been guilty though to start,” Gomez told Shetty. “In other situations of mine, I was very reactive. That’s why I was alone for five years—I really needed to collect myself.”
The Lose You to Love Me singer, now engaged to music producer Benny Blanco, explained that she wasn’t in the right mindset for a relationship in her earlier years and would not have been emotionally ready even if Blanco had entered her life back then.
Embed from Getty Images“I think in the past, that’s why I said to him all the time—10 years ago—it’s not that I wouldn’t have wanted to be with you, I just wouldn’t have been in the right headspace. And I don’t think you deserved what I had gone through before,” Gomez confessed.
She reflected on how previous emotional baggage impacted her relationships, leading to mistakes she now recognises. “I’ve learned a lot of lessons and I’ve made mistakes and I just want this to be right. That was a lesson I had to learn.”
The singer also discussed how Blanco’s patience and understanding had helped her grow. “I think girls can equally want to be right. For me, it was really difficult in the past, and he’s made it unbelievably easy. So if I even get to the point where I’m frustrated, he’s very quick to understand.”
Blanco, who has been in a relationship with Gomez since 2023, offered a supportive presence throughout the podcast, highlighting the couple’s strong emotional connection.
Gomez concluded her comments by acknowledging the calming effect Blanco has had on her life. “His way of handling me with patience has helped me refocus and react in situations with a calmer mindset.”
The couple’s interview comes amid growing public interest in their Selena Gomez relationships, especially after their surprise engagement earlier this year. Gomez’s openness about emotional maturity has resonated with many fans who have followed her personal journey through love, heartbreak, and healing.
