The N-Dubz star’s revelation about being demisexual resonates with fans, shedding light on an often misunderstood orientation.
In a heartfelt moment on I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out of Here!, Tulisa Contostavlos opened up about her sexuality, revealing that she identifies as demisexual. The admission has sparked widespread discussions, with many viewers taking to social media to share their thoughts and learn more about what demisexuality means.
Tulisa, best known for her role in the band N-Dubz and as a judge on The X Factor, joined this year’s star-studded jungle line-up, which includes Coleen Rooney, McFly’s Danny Jones, and podcaster Grace Keeling, also known as GK Barry. In a candid conversation with Radio 1 DJ Dean McCullough, Tulisa shared her perspective on relationships and intimacy.
“I feel like I’m demisexual,” she explained, adding, “I need to have a really close emotional bond with someone.” She elaborated further, admitting that she had been celibate for over three years, noting, “I’m not an overly sexualised person. For me, it’s all about the connection and the emotions I feel with someone and then wanting to express them in that way.”
Tulisa’s candidness resonated with her campmates and viewers alike. GK Barry, who also opened up about her own sexuality during the episode, shared how her relationship with footballer girlfriend Ella Rutherford prompted her to come out to her parents. These honest discussions about identity and relationships have highlighted the importance of representation in mainstream media.
Demisexuality, which falls within the asexuality spectrum, describes individuals who experience sexual attraction only after forming a deep emotional connection with someone. Unlike general sexual attraction, which can occur without prior emotional bonding, demisexuality requires a foundation of trust and closeness. Importantly, being demisexual is not tied to any specific gender or orientation; individuals can identify as straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, or otherwise, while also being demisexual.
Tulisa’s revelation struck a chord with viewers. Many took to social media to express their joy at seeing demisexuality represented on a popular platform like I’m A Celeb. One fan tweeted, “OH YES TULISA demisexual representation!” Another wrote, “Like I couldn’t adore this f**king queen more. Tulisa saying she thinks she might be demisexual is EVERYTHING!”
For some, Tulisa’s admission was a moment of personal discovery. One viewer shared, “#Tulisa thank you! I’ve just learned that I’m a demisexual after years of wondering why I’m unlike most gay guys.” Another fan simply exclaimed, “DEMISEXUAL MENTION ON IMMA CELEB I MOVED.”
This year’s edition of I’m A Celebrity has not shied away from important conversations around sexuality and identity. Tulisa’s openness joins a growing chorus of voices advocating for greater awareness and understanding of diverse sexual orientations. By sharing her journey, Tulisa has helped shine a spotlight on demisexuality, providing validation and support to those who may feel underrepresented.
For many fans, moments like these underscore the power of mainstream media to educate and foster connection. With discussions like these taking centre stage, it’s clear that I’m A Celeb is more than just a reality show—it’s a platform for authenticity and empowerment.